BEFORE YOU VISIT AN ESCORT AS A COUPLE…
Whether this is a first time experience with a couples
escort, or something you regularly indulge in, my feelings on the matter stay the same.
It is always a huge honour to be chosen and invited to be a part of an experience with a couple who are brave enough and share a bond strong enough to explore another person together.
Making sure two people have the same hopes and expectations for an intimate encounter can be challenging as is. Aligning three people is obviously even more so. Please consider the following things before contacting me. I wrote this article after reflecting on my experiences as Sienna, and as 1 half of the couple who are making the booking. In the past, I have booked a couples escort to join myself and a partner. I know what it’s like to be on your side of the fence. Once again, I will be completely honest. Please try not to feel like working through this list with each other is taking the sexy out of it. Trust me, the effort now is worth it. We will have far more fun on the day if you consider and address the following things first.
What are your hopes for our time together?
Interpret that open-ended question however you want. That is the point. Then please let me know what you come up with.
You can do that however you please. A clear email or phone call is just as good as sharing your desires in person. It all works for me.
What are the conditions or boundaries you have?
In my experience, couples often prefer to share certain physical acts exclusively with each other, such as kissing, especially for the first few experiences. It is easy to honour and abide by these conditions with clear communication, however without expressing your desires first, what can be a huge amount of fun can quickly turn sour. It pays to remember that you can list these boundaries at any point during the rendezvous with a few words, or a quick chat between yourselves. Being able to express that you are so comfortable/enjoying yourself so much/so turned on that you would like to remove a condition speaks volumes about your relationship, and your ability to choose a great third party!
It is not easy, or pleasant to have to intervene and set a rule during an encounter. I’m not saying it will ruin things, but hearing “umm sorry babe, you know how I said kissing was ok, well turns out, it makes me feel super uneasy so can you guys stop” isn’t something that gets most people in the mood.
The fact of the matter is, sometimes hiccups like this are unavoidable. If you witness something that all of a sudden makes you want to smash one of them over the head with the Moet bottle, you need to speak up regardless of whether it will ruin the mood or the evening. But it would be much sexier to avoid this altogether.
If you aren’t sure, it’s better to be safe than sorry. Set boundaries!
My suggestion to those who are either threesome virgins, or having the first with a new partner, is to even choose a condition to place on the act which is small, but noticeable, just in case, then throw it out the window later. It’s wonderfully comforting and very sexy to see your partner and your third, honour and respect your request.
For the women involved, is this a “straight” threesome, or a “bi” threesome?
In other words, are we both exploring your man only, or would you like us to play together? More specifically, have you been with a woman before? Would you like to play with me or just have me pleasure you? Regardless of the amount of physical contact we have directly, there is plenty to do and fun to be had with three people. Do not feel obligated to take part in anything you aren’t sure of.
I will only provide services to couples when all three parties are aware of the proceedings. Even if one of you is communicating on behalf of the other, I do require the opportunity to speak to both of you separately. There is nothing worse than an intimate surprise gone wrong, especially when you love the person
Lastly, I want to make it clear that your relationship is my first priority too.
When we finally meet, after the initial introductions and a casual flirty chat, I will give you a moment alone to check in with each other, to ensure you both would like to move forward with the date. I will usually excuse myself and head to the bar or bathroom. I may say I am going to “get another drink” or “freshen up”.
If I return, and we continue as we were, I will take this as a green light. If you aren’t convince we are a good match, or you decide that this isn’t the right choice for you after all, just let me know. I understand, and will just head home. You can give me the news any way you want. Simply saying “After all the organising and anticipation, we are just a bit too tired to really enjoy ourselves. Can we please take a rain check?” is enough. You don’t have to explain yourselves in detail, and I won’t question you. We can discuss the issue of funds at a later date.
Remember, you never have to see me again if you decide not to go ahead with the experience. Nerves are one thing, but I believe you should never ignore your gut. If you have that deep, unsettling feeling something isn’t right, listen to it! … But I really do hope it’s just preparing you for the next mind blowing adventure you have as a couple.